When I was younger, I struggled with anxiety going to school. A few times, I even ran out crying, overwhelmed by unfounded fears. Thankfully, my parents were incredibly patient and helped me through it. Fast forward 30 years, I’ve noticed my kids experiencing some uncharacteristic back-to-school anxiety—stomachaches for no reason, the nerves, the unsettling feelings.
Nearly 20% of elementary school kids and 25% of middle and high school students suffer from anxiety—figures that have risen significantly over the years. I’m sure it has something to do with the added pressures technology has placed on them.
Technology is causing kids to grow up too fast. Beyond the usual pressures of friends, schoolwork and activities, they now face the omnipresence of social media. This includes fear of missing out, the need to present a certain image, the risk of ridicule and exposure to inappropriate things. According to the National Library of Medicine, social media sites trigger psychological stress responses in kids.
So how can we help our kids, little and big, navigate social pressures and life stresses? Here are a few things I’ve been thinking:
- Help your kids develop meaningful connections. There’s nothing worse than having a lot of “friends” but feeling alone. As my grandma often said, if you can count your true friends on one hand, you’re lucky. Creating environments without cell phones where kids can genuinely bond is crucial.
- Limit screen time. The average teenager spends six to 10 hours a day on their phones—it’s insanity. You might want to consider getting your kids a light phone, one that can be used for calls, texts and directions but not for scrolling the internet or social media. If you want to try one, head to thelightphone.com.
- Family dinners are a powerful tool. They can address many issues, and research shows they help with anxiety. Just a reminder for myself of their importance.
- Nightly walks with kids and parents are invaluable. There’s something about walking individually with each child that makes conversations flow more easily. It’s beneficial for your body and brain and strengthens your relationship.
- Healthy sleep and eating habits are huge in helping kids manage anxiety. Take cellphones away at least an hour before bed. Your kids will sleep more soundly. We ordered old fashioned alarm clocks and C.D. players for our kids’ bedrooms. (My kids think I’m nuts, but I don’t care!)
- Preparing ahead is key. This year, I’m making it a priority to help my kids get everything ready the night before school. It makes me a more patient parent in the morning and reduces anxiety for all of us. It’s challenging with busy evenings, but it’s become essential in our house. Everyone heads to school happier when we’re not scrambling for things at the last minute.
Many of us are navigating the same issues, and I hope these thoughts help. Parenting is not easy but so worth it.
—XO Katelyn
Katelyn Young is a local mom of four (her #crumblycrew) who shares real moments of motherhood as it relates to fashion, food and fun! Follow her on Instagram @_katelynyoung_.