Q: I work for a high-stress, high-energy organization and, at times, the atmosphere gets tense. To relieve my stress, I can get a bit sarcastic with my longtime colleagues, and they seem to enjoy my sense of humor. However, recently, I think I may have overstepped myself with a new member of our team. What do you think about the use of sarcasm at the office?
—Just Trying to Keep Things Light
A: Sarcasm is a dangerous game—especially at the office. Certainly using sarcasm with people who know and trust you can foster intimacy and creativity but, as you have experienced, it can misfire. Irish poet and playwright Oscar Wilde called sarcasm the “lowest form of wit.” He also said it was “the highest form of intelligence.” Even so, keep in mind the word ‘sarcasm’ itself comes from the Greek and Latin ‘to tear flesh.’ Sounds like you may have given your new colleague a flesh wound with your sharp tongue, and perhaps an apologetic explanation is in order. Hopefully, in time, he or she will get to know your kinder, gentler side and come to appreciate your edgy sense of humor. Until then, I would tread very lightly. Sarcasm should be used judiciously and only with those you know well. I certainly would not use sarcasm with strangers or new acquaintances, who may be less likely to understand your intent and may very well take offense. Just because you are trying to keep things light around the office doesn’t make it right. It’s OK to be a little playful at work as long as it is appropriate, positive and not hurtful.
Q: I’m a recent college graduate and have just started searching for my first job. A former classmate of mine said that some of my Facebook postings could hurt my chances for landing a job. Seriously?
—My Personal Business is My Business
A: Unfortunately, there are myriad stories about how inappropriate Facebook postings have damaged employment opportunities, especially for young people entering the workforce. Like it or not, potential employers are probably going to check out your Facebook page. And, if you want to get your foot in the door, I would strongly encourage you to make sure your Facebook page is squeaky clean. Controversial or questionable posts and/or photos could easily hit a hiring manager the wrong way. In fact, before you send out your first resume, I would clean up your Facebook page. A few tips: Upload a professional profile photo, make sure your privacy settings are on, untag yourself, clean up your content, and take the opportunity to showcase your strengths. And, here’s the good news: If your Facebook page is professional and engaging, it could go a long way in helping you land a job. Seriously!
If you have a question for Joan, send it to business@townandstyle.com. Joan Lee Berkman is a marketing and public relations consultant.
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